Becoming a widow in 2020 at just 29 years old shocked me to my core. Brought me to my knees in disbelief. To lose someone you were with for 15 years to murder, unexpectedly, was devastating, to say the least.

Because of his popularity, impact, and the circumstances surrounding his death, I opted to grieve and honor his legacy privately. I opted not to publicly disclose any details, nor speak about his murder out of respect for his family, my mental stability, and most importantly, him.

You see, when you’re with someone for that long, on bad terms or not, your loyalty and love run thick. Well, it should. I used to feel guilty and awful about privately remembering and honoring him. But I don’t anymore. As I began to heal, I learned that I could grieve and remember him privately and in a sacred regard. Without the eyes of social media or the news / blogs asking for an interview. I learned that it is okay to protect and tuck myself into a safe place to grieve.

Quite honestly, after almost three years, some days, it’s still too painful to bear. It’s still too raw and emotionally challenging to comprehend. This year is particularly rough because he would be graduating from law school (University of Michigan Law) and getting ready to enter into a new exciting chapter. But that’s not reality-based anymore. He transitioned to be with our Holy Father and is resting peacefully. He earned that.

As I painfully yet ambitiously move through my journey of grief, there is one component in particular that has been my saving grace, Untangle Grief.

Untangle Grief is a community, a family of grievers who support each other, uplift each other, inspire each other, and often time pick each other up. It’s a safe space to expose your grief wounds, let out your sadness, and encourage the people walking the same journey as you.

Untangle Grief has been many times my lifeline. With this community, I’m learning how to carry the grief and not let it consume me. I’m learning that it is okay not to be okay. Most importantly, I’m learning that I’m not alone in my bereavement. That, that is what keeps me going.

Join us. Join us as we lift, encourage, support, and inspire one another. You are not alone, and neither am I.

https://untanglegrief.com/

https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=uk.co.disciplemedia.untangle

P.s.: If you can’t take things day by day, try taking it moment by moment. ❤️‍🩹 Either way, try.